Online Dating – How to Be Safe
March 11, 2010 | 10 Comments
Ready to enter the world of online dating? Is it safe?
Maybe yes and maybe no, but that is up to you. You have to protect your privacy and go slowly with whomever you are talking to.
Here are all the rules you need to make online dating safe.
Getting Started the Basics
When meeting new people from the dating site, keep your contact just to the written for a while, a few weeks.
Try and ask questions about the person’s life, what they do, what they are, and so on. Get to know the person’s biography.
If they suggest a meeting too soon, you do not have to disagree, but answer you would like to, as soon as your time and schedule permits. Draw out the first contact till you know the person better.
Moving from the Site to the Telephone
Before actually arranging the first meeting, try and move your contact (if you wish it) to telephone conversation.
Here you can get even more impressions about the person and even try and guess their intentions. Keep to the phone for about a week till you agree to a first meeting.
Arranging the First Meeting
The best place to meet is in a coffee shop, and during the day. Try to find a place you know, and you are a bit known there.
Do not arrange a night meeting for a first meeting under any circumstances, that is, if you are concerned for safety.
The crowded coffee shop and day hours are the safest. Keep this rule sacred. Try also to limit the first meeting to no more than 45 minutes.
You need to reflect about your impression of the meeting, the person, and how you felt with them.
Arranging the Second Meeting or the First Date
If you still concerned about safety (and you should be), your first date should again be in place with lots of people. A good restaurant, popular bar, or club are good ideas.
The smartest idea is to meet there, and not have the person pick you up or you pick the person up. Right after work gives you this excuse. Arrange your first date like that, and you will again have safety on your side/
Ongoing Activity
Now that you have established your confidence in the person you have met from the internet, you can move on to normal dating routine; but do only those things for which you feel comfortable and confident.
Sex and the Internet Partner
If you have decided to get into a sexual relationship with your internet partner, you should also remember that you may not be the only one he or she is seeing.
Never have unprotected sex, never. Your safety and your life may depend on it.
Multiple Internet Relationships
Online dating gives you the opportunity to meet more than one person at a time and further, have relations with them.
Statistics show that the more sexual partners you have, the greater the risk in contracting even small sexually transmitted diseases (STD).
You cannot be too careful in protecting your health and personal safety in this case. Unprotected sex must not enter into your options.
Sacha Tarkovsky
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/online-dating-how-to-be-safe-72348.html
Online Dating – the First Date Making It a Success
March 5, 2010 | 5 Comments
So you have got to the point where you are about to meet the person from your online dating site.
There are some real do’s and don’ts you need to know, and if you are careful, you just might hook up with the right partner.
Preparation
In preparation for your first date, you don’t wish to overstress the situation with your best clothes or jewelry and so on. The first impression has to be good, no doubt about it, but not your very best.
Prepare for your first date by arranging to meet at a crowded coffee shop. This way if the photos were deceptive – beware of Photoshop!
They can really change the look from a photo and take away years, weight, and put things there that aren’t) you have a quick and easy escape.
Plan for this eventuality.
Dress
If you are going to a crowded coffee shop, and it’s after your work, you will be in your working clothes.
If you are working in an office where you have some dress code, make a special effort dressing in the morning by putting on something trendy and something that shows off your best qualities (or perhaps masks your worst). Do not overdress, or under dress for the first date.
Make Up
If you are going to wear make up, consult a make up artist (at any department store) about late day, after work make up styles. They differ and can make a real difference in your appearance. Early day make up or evening make up are wrong for this occasion.
The Hello Moment
When you meet for the first time, try to be charming, even if the meeting is a disaster. If you are terribly disappointed, do not show it.
If you are really pleased, you have made a good choice. If you are not, you have to be civil, and kind. Order a coffee, speak a bit, and be on your way.
If you are pleased, and you can see the other person is pleased as well, the hello moment will show it all.
Conversation
It’s a very good idea to begin your conversation from the online dating site. You have a good idea (or should have) about the other person already.
Start your conversation by asking questions you know is of importance. Talk about their work, their various situations (of which you are already appraised), and try on the first date NOT to speak about:
Old loves
Sexually charged subjects (unless its obvious both of you are very interested)
Religion
Politics
Technical subjects that would bore anyone
The Parting
As you part, make arrangements for the next meeting. It should not be too many days in advance, and this will insure your first date was a success.
As you leave, remind the other person how pleased you were to meet them, and try for a good-bye hug or cheek kiss (European style). It’s a great way to say good-bye.
Sacha Tarkovsky
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/online-dating-the-first-date-making-it-a-success-73011.html
