Should You Try to Get Your Ex Back? Rekindle the Romance or Walk Away? 10 Questions You Need to Ask
They left. You’re lonely, and they look pretty good right now. Should you attempt to rekindle the romance? Let’s look at when to try and when to walk away. Ask yourself these 10 questions.
When to just walk away:
1. Are you’re lonely – perhaps desperately so? Just because you want someone in your life doesn’t mean that someone has to be your Ex. Coming to any relationship with an attitude of need virtually eliminates any chance for the relationship to succeed – especially a second-time relationship.
2. Are you driven by needing sex? Needing sex is an even worse basis for being together than needing companionship. Being needy just won’t work. Find someone else.
3. Are you trying to regain the lifestyle? Money, house, car, even access to your Ex’s friends are no basis for being together. Gather your courage and start over with someone else.
4. Are you overly depressed? If you are down on yourself, you become unable to see all the other joyful possibilities for your life – all the other wonderful potential partners just waiting for a happy positive you to ask them for a date.
5. Do you believe that your relationship broke up mostly because of what your Ex did wrong? Hoping for your Ex to change is no basis for restarting your connection.
If you answered Yes to ANY of the above five questions, you do NOT have a sound basis to consider getting back together. Now, consider whether you are ready for ANY relationship. Perhaps now is the time to join a support group or get professional counseling.
When to try to rekindle the romance:
1. Do you really Love your Ex? Are you sure that what you are feeling is not desperation, lust, jealousy, or depression?
2. Do you 100% forgive your Ex for EVERYTHING they ever did or failed to do?
3. Are you sure that your personal emotional state is stable?
4. Do you understand what went wrong? Can you see a path for YOU to make 100% of the changes needed for the relationship to work?
5. Have you made a sincere commitment to yourself to make real changes in your behavior? Something failed to work before. You must not base any attempt for reconciliation on a belief that your Ex will change. Real change must happen, and that real change is up to you. Are you truly willing to make that change?
If you answered Yes to ALL five of these questions, you are ready to make a sincere attempt to reconnect with your Ex.
Jonathan Huie
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